Have you ever had one of those moments?
Someone says something and you are instantly tense, upset.
And the more you focus on it, the worse it becomes.
This is your moment of opportunity – it is time to get your power back.
Every time you are challenged and embrace the challenge as an opportunity, you grow.
That growth = more control of your life = success, freedom, and peace.
This new habit – taking your power back – leads to more success.
How can you get calm when you are very upset?
First, recognize you are reacting – it is a habit. Then, take action:
1. Breathe deeply; keep breathing until you feel calmer.
2. Go to somewhere quiet when you can.
a. Breathe deeply, close your eyes; see a calming scene – a beach, the mountains, nature.
b. Play calm music, continue to breathe and focus on your breathing.
c. Distracted? Focus on the music or just your breath. Think, “I feel calm; it is all okay.”
3. Smile. This will shift your brain to positive. You will immediately feel better.
The key here is not to dwell on the “incident” but to allow your brain and body to re-claim peace.
Notice your natural tendency to blame and complain; STOP IT – this will only make matters worse.
Instead, get deeply involved in your work.
Science tells us focusing on a tough challenge (your #1 most important task) will calm you.
When you can, you may want to:
1. Write about it. Just write until you feel better – this helps you let it go.
2. Talk (no complaining) to a calm friend. Process it; keep focused on letting it go; no blaming.
3. Send them kindness – Think, “I am sending you feel better thoughts; compassion, kindness.”
These are “higher actions;” they take you out of the habits that keep you stuck. They transform you.
Practice them next time someone is unkind to you. As you do this, you empower yourself.
And isn’t that what you want - to get your power back, to get back to work, and your life?
You are 100% responsible for your thoughts, emotions, and actions; you have the power; not them.
Choose - “I choose to respond to my challenge, not to let it overtake me; not to let it ruin my hour, day.”
You have the power.
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Paula Guilfoyle
Consultant – Transforming Teams
Call now: 704-906-8045, email: paula@ClaimLeadership.com or visit her website www.claimleadership.com
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